Holistic health coach Andrea Smith joins us on the podcast to talk about a very common trend that happens around the end of January as new year’s resolutions begin to fizzle out. She explains the importance of aligning with your core values and focusing on intentions before goals.
That all sounds great, right? But like, what does that mean?
Listen to the full episode to find out how many of us need to take a few steps back before rushing into the next thing to “achieve” and some simple practices you can begin to experience this for yourself.
You can connect with Andrea on her website, and she offers a free discovery call for you to determine if her health coaching practice is right for you. Also mentioned in this episode is her upcoming class with us, that you’ll be able to find in our library of on-demand classes.
More about Andrea Smith:
Andrea Smith utilizes holistic health to radically transform your wellbeing. She works with you to see the whole picture of your health. Together you’ll address health in all areas of your life (i.e. nutrition, movement, relationships, career, creativity, joy etc.) This holistic approach builds a sacred & transformational environment. Her judgement-free accountability and support propels you into your ideal sustainable healthy lifestyle.
Our classes explore different topics around holistic health to help you understand the options you have, because we believe that YOU should be centered and empowered in your health.
[00:02:34] Lilly: [00:02:34] So I am here with Andrea Smith, holistic health coach. Welcome to the show, Andrea.
[00:02:41] Andrea: [00:02:41] Hello, thank you for having me.
[00:02:43] Lilly: [00:02:43] So nice to have you. Thanks for being here. So you are a holistic health coach who really helps people focus on the whole picture of their health, right?
[00:02:54] Andrea: [00:02:54] A hundred percent. Yes.
[00:02:55] Lilly: [00:02:55] Yeah. So tell us, what does that look like? I know a lot of people have an idea of what a health coach is. But they might be. They might have misconceptions about it. So you tell us what is, what do you do as a health coach?
[00:03:10] Andrea: [00:03:10] Yes. So as a health coach, right now, what I’m focused on is really holding space.
[00:03:18] So a lot of that is kind of being a reflector, to my clients. So they’ll often come in with, you know, a mindset, a goal that they have in mind, usually around. Like weight loss or eating. That’s often what people start with and then allowing that to really evolve, and take more of a whole shape. So, you know, what’s at the root of this.
[00:03:44] Like why now? Why, what is driving these goals that we have these future focus, like changes that we want to make in our life? Like what is really driving that, um, getting to the root of that. And allowing that to kind of reshape the way we look at ourselves, the way we look at our health and being more integrative, so, and embodying our health and less like kind of that start stop, you know, I’m on a diet quote unquote, and then I’m not, or, you know, kind of that up and down.
[00:04:16]Journey that we often feel like we’re on when it comes to our health and just kind of finding ways to level it out and to feel more confident in yourself and what you know about yourself and not feel like you always kind of have to be having someone else externally, even myself included being a guide, like really getting confident to the point where.
[00:04:38]You can run with it, you know, and maybe you need to, you know, a tune-up we all need check-ins and things like that, but just getting a really strong foundation in who you are, um, and letting that be your guide when it comes to your health.
[00:04:52] Lilly: [00:04:52] I love that. And it’s, it’s such a unique approach. When I think about like the different types of, health professionals that I grew up knowing about like, you know, about your doctor nurses.
[00:05:04]Dentist, you know, about like nutritionists and fitness pros and things like that, but the term health coach and the whole practice of health coaching is relatively new. So, I think a lot of us are still kind of trying to wrap our brains around. What does that mean? You know, so you mentioned people will come to you with like, Generally, like we’ll come with a concern or one thing, and it sounds like you really help them kind of pull that apart and look at it in different ways.
[00:05:36] Andrea: [00:05:36] Is that a hundred percent? Yes. Yes. That’s what I really love because I think even, even in my own world, you know, the word health coach it’s it’s, it already comes with like its own definition. So I really enjoy kind of unpacking that. Especially when I first have a discovery call, I think I’m just really getting, you know, what is, what is it that you define your health as, and, and even starting there because we all have these different definitions.
[00:06:05] Oftentimes I think we just assume we all. Think the same way about health, but we don’t and just kind of starting where you’re at and understanding yourself. I think that’s the approach. That means so much to me that like the word holistic again, it’s still kind of a buzzword and even a holistic health coach.
[00:06:23] They could all be doing very different things. That’s why, you know, even now it’s, there’s no one definition. Um, but that’s, what’s, that’s the beauty of it. It’s and I think it. It’s evolving, it’s ever changing. And that’s where it’s kind of fun to be in this role where I am able to create the space that I think will fit the client best.
[00:06:45] You know, it’s, it’s more client led and it’s very personal. Um, it’s very tailored. It’s not like a have, you know, I have this. System quote, unquote like a kind of a framework of the steps that seem to work the best, but it’s always, you know, taken at different paces, taking it, maybe even at different times, you know, and interchanging the steps and really being fluid with ourselves because that’s life, you know, real life is not like X plus Y equals Z as much as we wish it was.
[00:07:16] It’s not so getting comfortable, even with the uncertainties of life and our health and just having space to work through some things, because I think oftentimes that can be sometimes the missing factor in our life is just having a space to kind of talk about how something went, you know, and just to have, you know, someone to bounce ideas off of which I really enjoy, being in that space.
[00:07:39] Lilly: [00:07:39] Definitely. I mean, I think about. This last year, especially for people when you talk about, you know, not, not having all the answers or things, not always going the way you expect them to, um, hello, 20, 20, right? Like a lot changed for people. And, I feel like having that support of a coach. And that sounding board, like you mentioned for people to just like process, you know, like we all process things differently, but I can definitely see the benefit for a lot of people processing it with a supportive person right.
[00:08:23] In their life and, and a professional who knows how to help kind of process and guide right. A hundred percent. Yes. Yeah. So we talked a little bit about what health coach is, but let’s talk about some of the misconceptions too, and maybe talk about like, what do you not focus on as a health coach?
[00:08:47] Andrea: [00:08:47] Yeah. That’s a good one. Uh, so I think definitely for me personally, I do not focus on diets or like diet culture, anything related to. That stigma around kind of like changing ourselves necessarily. Which I think definitely is, you know, this leads into the time of the year, but like kind of when we, when we talk about resolutions and it can feel so exciting and invigorating, but that’s often, Why it fizzles out because it doesn’t have anything backing it, you know, it’s just kind of this lofty future focused idea of ourselves.
[00:09:32] So tying that back just kind of anything that’s externally focused, like something that you want to get like. You want to change and in, and you don’t even know why? I think oftentimes, um, that’s usually something underlying, you know, I’ll use weight loss as an example. This is common.
[00:09:50] We all like have had a time in our life where we’ve thought about this and there’s nothing wrong, especially when it’s, you know, it is dire for your health. But I think that’s not always the case. And, Just the idea of the size of our body, for some reason always needs to be smaller. I think that just in itself kind of sets ourselves up for these limiting beliefs about ourselves and kind of that something maybe is already wrong with us and we need to change it.
[00:10:16] So just kind of that, that idea of like, something’s wrong with me and I need to change myself in order to be healthy. That mindset just kind of shifting that and really. Coming more from a place of just acceptance self-acceptance and why that matters, why it matters to actually really start pouring into yourself now and not when you’re this or not.
[00:10:42] When you’re that why the person you are now matters. And why pouring into who she is. I only work with women, so I’ll just say she, but I pouring into her is, is really the most beneficial thing you can ever do at any stage on your journey. And getting, and getting to that really, embodying that cause it’s one thing to understand it and it’s another thing to do it, you know, and to practice it and to be consistent with it.
[00:11:10] And that’s often where the challenge lies. If we aren’t rooted in something more, um, deep within us that you know, is guiding us versus kind of like a lofty external goal, if that makes sense. Yeah, definitely. And I think like that’s probably where the benefit of working with a coach is to have a little bit of like accountability and reminding like that, reminding.
[00:11:36] That’s not the right word. The reminding this, no, I know what you need to word it all, but yeah, I mean, because they think, um, we can, you mentioned like wrapping your brain around it. You know, intellectually, but not, but actually being able to do it and practice it and embody it each and every day. That’s where the struggle is.
[00:12:00] And that’s probably where it helps to work with a coach. Right. A hundred percent, I think that’s where it’s so powerful to get clear on what you value. This is why intention setting is so important because it’s value driven. So it’s internally focused. It’s getting very clear on what matters to you personally in life.
[00:12:26] Like all the very highest of importance and why, and allowing that. To kind of reconstruct our beliefs about ourselves, our actions and, and just really taking more of that like objective view of our life, you know, and just, just realizing that when I do X, Y, and Z, when I feel X, Y, and Z, this is often like some of the patterns I have and just noticing them without judgment, you know, just beginning to notice these things that.
[00:13:00] We do we, you know, and, and just how they have an effect in our lives and slowly seeing, you know, is this the effect I want or not? And if it’s not, then you know, what, what else, what are other choices? What are my other options? And just kind of continuing that journey of stepping back reassessing. And then making a choice.
[00:13:20] And once you are clear on your values, that decision-making process becomes much simpler. Honestly, because you, you don’t feel, as I know for myself, it induced a lot of anxiety in my life when I wasn’t sure about what I, you know, what I really wanted. I think that that can be a really scary place to be when you feel so overwhelmed by all.
[00:13:44] Of these uncertainty let alone, you know, COVID all of this, we’ve had this for so long that it’s something we have no control over. But then if on top of that, there’s things in your everyday life, you still feel like you don’t have any control over. It can just feel very debilitating. And so kind of just finding ways to take our power back, finding ways.
[00:14:04] To realize when we do have choices, making the choices that are in alignment with us and our authentic self, and then, you know, feeling better, just starting to feel like, Ooh, a little weight could be released so that we can handle more of life’s uncertainties because they are always going to be there.
[00:14:22] For sure.
[00:14:23] Lilly: [00:14:23] Yeah, of course. I want to back up a minute and ask you about how you got into this work. What led you to this point?
[00:14:33] Andrea: [00:14:33] Wow. I feel like I’ve thought of this in so many ways. I’ve said it in so many ways, but I always like comes out differently. So. I think for me, my journey of like understanding myself, my own health definitely started in college when I was just beyond stressed.
[00:14:51] Like I almost, every, you know, there’s different areas of your life, you know, that holistic thing and all areas were out of balance. They’re all out of whack. So I was just in a very, uh, what’s the word, like just. Uh, suffering, suffering, suffering place. And I had yoga introduced to me from a friend and I really, you know, I assumed it was kind of just stretching.
[00:15:16] Kind of thing. But I did it and I tried it and I got just this feeling of embodiment, this feeling of myself that I’d never had before. And I was like, Oh, you know, I didn’t know. I felt so anxious until I didn’t feel as anxious. And then I’m like, wow. Okay. I really enjoy. This thing where you can have more control over how you feel, you know, you don’t have to be as reactionary.
[00:15:39] You can have more, um, of a choice again. So that kind of started my journey. And for years I was practicing just enjoying it, but still very compartmentalizing my life. Eventually I took teacher training, so I began teaching yoga and that taught me again so much about actually embodying. My values, you know, and actually like living in alignment and pushing myself beyond, you know, sometimes my comfort zone for the betterment of myself.
[00:16:11] Cause it definitely wasn’t easy for me. I’m, I’m more of an introverted person, so it took a lot, but I, you know, I did it and I was proud of myself. So that, that for me was the most important lesson I learned was having pride and being proud of myself because. Also, I definitely have worked through perfectionism people pleasing, which you know, can get in the way and they can be self sabotaging, especially when you’re trying to be of service.
[00:16:37] So that’s, um, a huge lesson I learned through teaching. Yep.
[00:16:41] Lilly: [00:16:41] Okay. I can relate to that so hard. I felt like I went through the same thing when I started teaching yoga too. That’s so funny. Yeah. It’s a real thing. I mean that like internal chatter of. Like the first class. I don’t know if this is your experience too, but like the first few classes I taught where I was just like, Oh, that wasn’t right.
[00:17:02] That wasn’t right. That didn’t sound good. What are you doing? It was so loud. And it was hard to like quiet that chatter and focus on being present, which is funny because that’s kind of the point of yoga. Um, but I can relate to that so hard. So funny. We have that in common. I know it.
[00:17:25] Andrea: [00:17:25] I remember my first class, like I pretty much just.
[00:17:28] Blacked out because I was so nervous and so anxious. I don’t even know what I said it was done. And I was so sweaty. I like, I just was so sweaty and I was like, Oh my goodness. I am not sure this was a good idea. You know, like I just started to really question what I was thinking, you know, why am I doing this?
[00:17:49] Um, but I had some tough discussions. My husband, he was my boyfriend at the time. And he was like, you know, do you want to only do yoga? Do you want to keep learning about it? Or do you, do you want to teach, like, you really got to get clear about why you can’t forever learn about it. And just if you, you know, and just like asked me some tough questions and I think it’s important to have that support and like people to bounce these ideas off of when you are, you know, kind of imploding.
[00:18:18] And you’re like, Oh my gosh, like I’m the worst yoga teacher ever. Because that’s not true, but it feels like that. And they can feel very, at first it’s hard to start something like that. It’s very scary. It’s very scary. Um, but yeah, so I did that for a while and I, I was kind of bummed because again, all through this, So I went to school for financial management and I was an accountant.
[00:18:46] So I’ve been in like corporate accounting and public accounting and all the different accountings. So in the meantime, I was always doing this, but then like having things on the side that I was trying to fulfill my heart, you know, and my more purposeful life, um, which, you know, it, it did it sufficed for awhile.
[00:19:05] Um, but yoga, it felt to me. More of a personal practice. I enjoyed it more that way, but I was glad that I practiced it. I practiced teaching and I still do teach sometimes, but it’s more usually like private things. So after that was done, I was so bummed because I’m like, I thought that was going to my thing.
[00:19:24] You know, I could use that as my out, but it wasn’t so, so sad. So then I just, I still continued to kind of play around and do like trial and error with other careers that were outside of accounting. Cause I, even though I felt like I had the skills like, and I’m very analytical, you know, that’s kind of how my brain works.
[00:19:46] So it wasn’t. That I didn’t feel like I could do it. I just didn’t want to, you know, it just didn’t feel like something I really saw myself doing. And for some reason that voice would never stop. So I’m like, I just got to keep trying to see what else is out there. Um, so. I tried so many random things. I tried like coding.
[00:20:06] I don’t like, you know, like computer coding, like I haven’t bought a new computer. I tried all this. I can’t even think of all of them. Cause it’s like just a bunch of online stuff before it remote was like really cool. I was like, I really want to be able to travel. So I was looking for a lot of different remote type of jobs.
[00:20:25] Like maybe just being a consultant for accounting or all these things, but, Then in my personal life. So my dad, he has had health issues. Like since I can remember, he has type two diabetes, he’s had heart issues. He’s had open-heart surgery. He’s had cancer, like just so many things, um, that. I I’ve always just kind of like wondered, you know, is it genetics?
[00:20:51] Like, I don’t know, is that a thing or is it like lifestyle, you know, kind of wondering, and as, uh, in 2019. I got married in July and then in, uh, at the end of July. So, and the only, even a couple of weeks after I got married, that’s when my dad had to go in for open heart surgery. And it was so jarring, um, because of just like how dangerous that, uh, procedure is.
[00:21:16] So when he was recovering from it kind of watching him interact with the doctors and just them kind of giving him mixed messages, especially around like, How he could eat. So some would be like, you can have X, Y, and Z. Um, that’d be good for your heart. But then on the other hand, it was like, you can’t because you have diabetes and just watching him feel so helpless.
[00:21:38] Um, it really, you know, it just broke my heart. So I was, I was, uh, at the time I had. This was when I was on my journey of trying to figure out what to do, you know, with my life. Um, and I had kept getting these like ads on a podcast. I was listening to about this, um, program called the Institute of integrative nutrition.
[00:22:00] And that’s where you learn about, you know, holistic health and things like this, and can be a coach when you’re done with the program. Um, and after my dad went through a surgery, I’m like, you know what. I’m just going to do it, even if it’s just for me and my family, just to, even to give more insight into what nutrition is, I’m going to do it.
[00:22:19] Um, so I did it and then I fell in love with it instantly like the program. I cannot recommend it enough. I thought it was going to be just about food, but it’s so not. And that’s what made me love it even more. Cause I, myself, you know, I want to learn about food. I, I do enjoy food obviously, but, or not, maybe that’s obvious, but I love food.
[00:22:36] Um, and I just looked my, my eyes. Just completely were open. My whole life was open to the possibilities of holistic health and just the impact it can have on your life by approaching it, you know, with intention and values and just having, you know, the ability to hold space, all these things I didn’t even realize were connected.
[00:22:59] I was able to take it, to connect them by being a health coach. So I was just like, Oh my gosh, even now I’m talking about it. I’m like, I’m going a little emotional because it was just such a special time to realize there was a thing that, you know, I never knew there could be a thing that was just one thing I could really love.
[00:23:16] You know, it’s usually a piecemeal situation, which even now I still do multiple things, but it just feels good to have found something that I, I care so much about.
[00:23:26] Lilly: [00:23:26] Yeah, definitely. Yeah. Well, I love that. I love that story so much and it makes sense to get emotional. I mean, hi. I can feel like when you were during your, um, what’s the word, your walk about time.
[00:23:44] Yeah. You know, trying to figure out what, what is your thing? Yeah. That’s hard going through that and not feeling like you have that fulfillment from any one thing. So it makes sense that when you. Do you find it that it’s powerful and it feels you really feel it, you know, doing this, like this is your thing.
[00:24:05] So awesome.
[00:24:07] Andrea: [00:24:07] Yeah. I mean, and now that’s, that’s the crazy thing is, um, when I started my program, you know, I just, it kind of. It made a natural progression. You know, like the synchronicity started happening where I started having people ask me, you know, like, are you started? I would love to co you know, a coach and it just kind of snowballed to now, uh, this is my full time, you know, I don’t do accounting anymore and I’m working with other amazing women.
[00:24:33] So I do my own personal coaching, but I also am working with a firm. And they are so amazing. Just being able to have like a community of other women, you know, that are passionate about the same things. It’s just been such a gift. I cannot even explain how honored I am to be on this journey. And yeah, I think it does, it does hit different or it does feel different when you’ve been in that place where you’re like, Oh my God, like what am I doing with my life. You know, it just feels so different.
[00:25:04] Lilly: [00:25:04] You’re not alone in that. I mean, I went through that. I know a lot of people have gone through that and there may even be people out there listening to this podcast that are going through right now, trying to find their thing, or maybe have inklings of, you know, this isn’t what I’m meant to do.
[00:25:20] What is it? What am I missing? Well, thank you for sharing that story. Great. Let’s talk more about what you do as a health coach. So one thing that I feel like a lot of people. Like myself who tend to somebody to describe a type of person, um, people that tend to be very independent and take on a lot of things on their own and say like, no, I can do it all myself.
[00:25:48]I feel like people like that, like myself, I’m self-identifying here. Maybe like, I think of a health coach and say, okay, I get that, you know, all of these things are important that you work on with a health coach, but I can do all that on my own. Like, I don’t need someone to talk to about it. Like I know what I need to do.
[00:26:09] I just need to like do it. Right. So have you worked with anyone like that and what would you. Say to people like that that are out there maybe thinking they can do it themselves and thinking that they don’t need a health coach.
[00:26:23] Andrea: [00:26:23] Yes, I have. And I do work with people like that and I, and myself identify as much too, so, so much in common.
[00:26:31] I mean, it’s funny. I think those, you know, I think it leads back to kind of that perfectionism sometimes, you know, kind of just really, really allowing that to, Kind of settled for a second, you know, and just be real with ourselves, you know, first off being perfect. Isn’t a realistic goal. And why you know, that’s not even a, you know, just, even if that is a goal, really looking at that, what will that give you?
[00:26:59] You know, but I digress. Um, so working with somebody who feels independent, okay. I would say to this person, That being independent is important. And I think building off of that is even more important and kind of looking at if it is as simple as once I know I should do, you know, I think there’s a missing part, which is the being, um, like be, do have, I don’t know if you’ve heard of that, um, phrase, but it’s kind of like, A sequence of events.
[00:27:35] Oftentimes we kind of flip it on its head where we sync once we do, then we’ll have, and then we’ll be that person. When in reality, we kind of need to flip it around. So first we have to start embodying this person for stopped. That is. Us already, but then pulling out even more parts of ourselves that we might be suppressing for some reason or another, that we don’t even know unless we maybe have somebody kind of being that mirror, being that reflector because our subconscious is strong.
[00:28:08] And if we don’t know what we don’t know. So say for example, you want it, you know, you want these new habits, but it just hasn’t happened. Why probably because they’re not important, you know, to be honest other, you know, so then it’s just like, okay, well, what is important? So, and then just focusing on that and then like how you can even more integrate what is important to you in your life and just work from there.
[00:28:34] Cause I think oftentimes we kind of again have these like lofty ideas and we don’t really realize where they’re coming from. Sometimes they’re not coming from us. You know, they’re coming from what we see around us or social media telling us like what we need to do, who we need to be. And that can feel very deflating and very confusing.
[00:28:53] So often would I. What I would say is that for me, it’s been helpful. I have my own coaches as well. Just having a space. For me that’s what I like to offer the most is just realizing the importance and the value of having a safe space to really just be a hundred percent authentically yourself, continue to connect to that authentic self, to continue to build trust in that self that’s there and allow yourself to then.
[00:29:23] Empower yourself to continue to bring that into your everyday life. You know, because again, same with like yoga great example. It’s very easy to be Zen in yoga class, but then it must be, it’s a little more challenging when you go off the mat, you know, trying to live. Right. Exactly. So I feel like that can be, you know, related to many areas of our lives.
[00:29:45] And once I think that’s the, um, the beauty in having another person there to listen to you. Cause oftentimes think about it. Like how often do we have someone who genuinely listens to us? And, and even allows for those awkward pauses where we’re used to filling the, the, you know, filling that with more and more and more until we no longer are really even speaking from our heart, we’re just kind of nervous or anxious, you know what I mean?
[00:30:14] And that, and that can often get in the way of what it is that we desire. So having that safe space, I would say is really the true gift of having a coach relationship. And just allowing yourself to kind of see what comes from that. Cause it really is. You just never know until you, until you get in there.
[00:30:32] That’s what I actually love about it because it continues to prove to me, that I do enjoy not knowing. That there is excitement in uncertainty and, putting more faith into that rather than fear, because I think that is what the outside world often is. Like, it’s very fearful with a lot of things that are going on in our world.
[00:30:53] So having more certainty in ourselves is, uh, is, uh, a really good gift. . Does that make sense? I kind of went off.
[00:31:04] Lilly: [00:31:04] How do you help people kind of develop that, that knowing that kind of centering in their own values and intentions, you know, and maybe explain a little bit of like, How does a coaching relationship work?
[00:31:21] How often do you meet with people? What does that evolution kind of look like? And then there’s an end point. Does it keep going, you know,
[00:31:32] Andrea: [00:31:32] Great questions.
[00:31:33]So how does it work? I would say it works through a lot of deeper diving questions maybe than we’re used to in our everyday life. You know, so really starting that’s the part I will, that I play in the relationship is really allowing you first to just really get out all the things you know, that you, that you need to get out when it comes to whatever your goals are, whatever the topic is.
[00:32:06] And then me. First reflecting that back confirming, you know, so this is X, Y, and Z. So we, so you can also see, more clearly what it is that you yourself are saying. Cause, I think that’s an important piece. Um, so, so being that reflection, but then also. Being kind of that explorer with you. So let’s explore that and let’s, let’s make sure that this is what it, what we think it is.
[00:32:32] And kind of like, uh, kind of just diving, diving in, you know, and really, really allowing that sacred nonjudgmental space to do that because I think. Again, in everyday life, it’s often difficult to really get deeper into some of these things that maybe are either bothering us or that we want to do or things like that.
[00:32:53] Cause we’re just go, go, go. And then when we don’t, when we have time to relax, we just want to relax, you know? So it’s kind of like a set time to really get clear about what it is you want. Is that in alignment with what you’re doing and if not, why? You know, and just continuing that process every time. So right now what I do is I have one-on-one, clients that I work with and we meet every other week, for an hour, So it really allows space.
[00:33:22] I really enjoy the one every other week so that when we go through something, I, again, it’s very client driven. So at the end, I allow my clients to decide what it is that they’ll be focusing on the next couple of weeks, so that it’s coming from inside, you know, and continuing to build that self-accountability is so important.
[00:33:42]And then we, we touch on that next time. So it’s really an ever-evolving thing. So whatever it is that you start with, who knows that could be the same thing we talk about every week. Oftentimes it’s like completely different. And just continuing to check back in, you know, his, uh, intentions are very important to my practice.
[00:34:01] I take my clients through an intention setting exercise, and then we continue to touch on that. Throughout our program, just to make sure they’re still in alignment or maybe they have some different ones just so that they can continue to be clear and feel confident in the direction that they’re going.
[00:34:19] Right? Yeah. So right now I have, three months and six months. So then at the end of those programs, we just kind of check in, see how it’s going for both of us to, you know, it’s a, it’s a both ways thing. If I feel like. This, this relationship could benefit from going further. I’ll definitely offer that.
[00:34:38] Or if I feel like, you know, maybe it’s time for a little break, then I could offer that too. So, um, it’s definitely intuitive. Intuition led, like, let’s, let’s feel this out together. There’s definitely no right or wrong way to do this. And I just want everyone who’s involved to feel comfortable and competent and you know, safe.
[00:34:56] That’s that’s the most important thing.
[00:34:58] Lilly: [00:34:58] Yeah. That makes sense. So you talked a little bit about intention setting already, so what does it look like to set intentions and why is it important to do that before setting goals? Because I think when we were talking about this before we were talking about like, January, which is we’re recording this in January and it’s, you know, high season for new year’s resolutions and lots of goal setting.
[00:35:26] So. What is like the drawback of saying, okay, my goal, which I’m just going to take. One of the most popular goals for January is like, I want to lose 10 pounds by X date is the goal. So why is it problematic to go right to that and not take some time to set your intentions?
[00:35:48] Andrea: [00:35:48] Yes. Yes. Um, I would say. It’s it’s so it’s so nuanced that it’s like, I have so many things running through my head, but, um, so I think that the reason this is problematic is because it’s, future-focused only, so then when you get to that point in time, then what, you know, so after you lose this 10 pounds, who are you miraculously going to become that is better than who you are right now.
[00:36:18] And being real about that. Like, You know, it just, it’s just gonna feel either, either you’ll feel disappointed because you didn’t do it or when you do do it, you’ll still be probably feeling disappointed because it isn’t giving you the feeling of satisfaction that you had in mind. Um, so that’s when solely future focused external kind of focused goals will leave you feeling deflated or like not satisfied basically.
[00:36:45] Yeah. I think that goals can be hopeful, but they need to be in tandem with intentions, which are present focused and really focusing again how I touched on like your values, how you want to feel, you know, how we have these to-do lists. What about to feel like, how do you want. To feel. That’s an important thing to take note of as well, and actually being proactive in practicing that and not just allowing life to dictate how you feel all the time and actually taking a part in creating that.
[00:37:20]So I would say that’s why, uh, intentions are so powerful because they’re what you, what really brings you along. It’s what, it’s, what pulls you. And then it’s what, when you get to that goal. You’re able to then see who you are. You’re, you’re, you’re feeling valued and that goal isn’t like the end all be all.
[00:37:42] It’s just more of like a step along the way. And then you’re able to see the next step clearly and maybe go to that, or maybe not, and kind of just allowing yourself to continually reassess and. Not have to continue that on and off feeling that start and stop feeling that really having it be who you are, you know, really embodying, like we said, it’s easy to intelectualize or, you know, in our heads, but actually feeling.
[00:38:13] Things, is often the missing factor, especially when it comes to our health. And the, how I would say is by getting incredibly honest with ourselves, really getting to the core of our being, of what we desire in this life. What lights us up, what in the moments do we lose track of time? What are those.
[00:38:36] Things that if you never had to think about money or time or anything that just light you up from the inside and, and, and really be allowing that to be a driver, you know, and, and giving yourself permission to not think so practically all the time. Cause you know, I think I, I can say that from experience like, well, Oh, but what about this?
[00:38:58] You know, or, you know, just try trying to overanalyze the situation and actually just being like, you know what, this is what I care about. Period. That’s what I think an intention is. It doesn’t have a, but it’s just, this is what I care about, period.
[00:39:14] Lilly: [00:39:14] I love that. Do you have any examples of intentions? Yeah.
[00:39:19] Andrea: [00:39:19] Yeah. I would say one for me, connection, authentic connection is something that I value very much. So an intention I set for myself is to. First and foremost, authentically connect with myself each day. Really tune into who I am that day, how I’m feeling that day. Being honest with myself and caring for myself and letting that lead me and all of my other interactions.
[00:39:49] Am I perfect? No, but that’s something that I do care about. So I keep checking up on that throughout the day. So I’m like, Is this, is this something I want, let’s be honest, you know, because I know that’s something that is so important to me to actually start being honest, because I am a recovering people pleaser so often will say yes when, I mean, no, so.
[00:40:12] Really having that intention of authenticity for myself is so important. And it allows me to show up in the interactions I have with others, which also matter to me so much and really be there and be present and continue to build that. And. Yeah, so authenticity, I would say like just somehow phrasing that however I want each day, however, it feels right in my heart, but that’s definitely a high core value for me.
[00:40:39]And something that I’m focused on practicing each day and embodying,
[00:40:44] Lilly: [00:40:44] Oh, that’s so beautiful. I want to get more clear on that now.
[00:40:51] Andrea: [00:40:51] It definitely helps. And like I said, I think. Often we can feel so scatterbrained. I know how that feels when you don’t know which direction you want to go in. Not saying, you know, the end, but even just it’s knowing which way to point yourself can feel like a relief instead of feeling like you’re completely Lee floundering and kind of wanting everything all the time, you know, and then at, and then at the end of the day, actually feeling quite okay.
[00:41:18] Empty because we wanted everything. But in reality, we don’t, we want usually just a few things and focusing on that will help us feel more fulfilled.
[00:41:28] Lilly: [00:41:28] Yeah. What do you feel like gets in the way of people doing that? Because it seems like it would be a natural, it should be human nature, right. To like care about ourselves and connect with ourselves and do things or, you know, fill our days with things that we actually care about and be able to make decisions with that as kind of a guiding force. But I think so many people are disconnected from that. Right. And I’d love your thoughts on like what causes that disconnection. And do you have any examples of like how you can help people kind of work through some of those, Roadblocks or those, maybe those filters that have kind of grown over the years that.
[00:42:12] Um, that keep people from being able to connect and make decisions in that way, you know?
[00:42:19] Andrea: [00:42:19] Yeah. That’s a great question. I would say that disconnection, you know, I can speak from personal, my personal life often was coming from. Not focusing on myself, you know, because I had a belief that that was selfish or, you know, that that was wrong to kind of be thinking about how I felt in a scenario versus how someone else felt and, you know, prioritizing other people’s feelings, which in reality, we can never know or control except our own.
[00:42:51] Yeah. So, you know, kind of trying to control things that I have no control over, I think often was leading to disconnection. So when I started to turn my focus inwards and really just accept, you know, accept myself, love myself. Learn to stop judging myself as much. Am I perfect? No, but again, this is, this is a practice just like yoga, you know, it’s a practice and it’s a, it’s a choice that we have to continually make, of showing up in love and non-judgment and acceptance of ourselves.
[00:43:23] And when we allow that to, to kind of be our go-to, I think that’s when, you know, say. There’s the choice between doing something that we really don’t want to do, but, you know, we think that will make someone happy that, you know, what I would say is probably like a distraction kind of thing versus maybe saying home, being alone.
[00:43:46] Doing whatever you want to do, or, you know, whatever the other case is, when we have had time to tune in with ourselves, I think we’ll make the choice that is in alignment with us. Because I think there lies the answer and there lies really the only thing we have control over and often. I think we don’t realize the choices we make from our subconscious. So like we may be in a pattern of kind of always doing something that just doesn’t feel right, but it feels like we have no choice because we’ve been doing it for so long until one day we pause and we say, wait, you know, actually really don’t.
[00:44:24] Like driving this way, you know, but I do it every day. Let me try another way. And you’re like, Oh, that’s affirms to yourself that what you are feeling matters. So, you know, when you’re feeling something discontent, It’s okay to stop and really analyze or not analyze, but just like look at it from nonjudgemental place, objectively, and then decide, you know, versus kind of having to continuously kind of trudge through life with, um, with that feeling of just no control, you know, and.
[00:44:58] Getting back to controlling what we can, which is ourself. I think that allows for more space between the distractions and the choices that we can make. Yeah. I forgot what your second question was.
[00:45:13]Lilly: [00:45:13] I forgot to. It was about like what holds people back, but then how can people kind of work through that?
[00:45:22] So maybe let’s, let’s take some, examples of like, what are tangible practices that people can start say, you know, that I rec I’m listening to this episode and I’m thinking, wow. Yeah. I haven’t really thought about what I actually want. It’s probably hard to go from like, Zero to 60, for sure in that.
[00:45:44] Right. So what’s like a first step for someone
[00:45:47] Andrea: [00:45:47] yeah. Yeah. I would say a first step is. Getting some type of daily check-in with yourself, like just starting to get into the rhythm of feeling what is happening to you daily and what it, you know, how you feel about it, for me, journaling has been an incredible tool because I used to think, you know, Oh, whatever, like journaling, what’s that really going to do? Okay. I’ll do it. And it definitely started that way. I was still being very surface level with myself, even, even people pleasing myself, you know, in my journal and trying to be upbeat in my journal.
[00:46:28] I was like, nobody’s going to read this, you know, it’s so hard. Isn’t that funny? We were like, Oh, I really don’t feel great, but it’s okay because. Fried myself in my journal. That’s what I mean. It’s like, it’s funny. I mean, it’s funny, but it’s not because again, feel very, you know, it can be very challenging, which, you know, still have many days like that, but continuing anyways, and just even, even if it’s one line where you’re like, you know what, I’m really angry about this or something, just something that feels uncomfortable to say.
[00:47:05] But it’s true. Mudding it out, start letting it out, you know, especially for me, you know, I think as women, we’re definitely, um, conditioned to be bright and be nice, you know, and that’s the only, you know, we w we need to have people like us are, our value is attached to that, you know, and just slowly, slowly realizing that.
[00:47:29] That is a belief, you know, it’s not a fact. So just unpacking that and taking space, finding a safe way for you to get honest with yourself, I think is important. And for me, that’s journaling where I can start or I’ve learned even, even now, I’m still learning how to just start to be incredibly honest with myself about how I’m feeling.
[00:47:51] And then when you feel safe in that, you know, maybe take it outside. Start saying to people you trust and you love, you know, feelings that you normally wouldn’t share to start sharing them, being honest. It doesn’t mean you have to be, you know, I think we get so worried often. Like I don’t want to be mean, um, but being honest and being mean are very different things, you know, but I think we, sometimes we get them, we put them together.
[00:48:18] Um, and if it’s. If it’s a person that you care about that cares about you, I’m sure they would actually be very happy and feel honored for you to be honest with them. And that opens up the floor for them to be honest with you about things, maybe you didn’t know that, you know, because cause you haven’t opened up that door of vulnerability with them and that could create a new level of connection just by being honest.
[00:48:42] Um, so I would definitely say just practice, being honest with yourself, however, that looks. Some people like, like say talking to themselves in the mirror or, you know, maybe record your voice in your phone and just talk to yourself and then play it back. Right. Just something a way to express yourself where you can feel fully safe.
[00:49:03]Lilly: [00:49:03] Thank you for sharing. Yes, definitely. So I have to few more questions for you. Okay. We have a class coming up together that we’re working on. So your class is going to be about. Intention setting. Do you want to talk a little bit about what’s going to be included in that?
[00:49:24] Andrea: [00:49:24] Yes. The three main topics that I’m going to touch on are the difference again, between goals and intentions and why that even matters.
[00:49:36] Not saying one’s better than the other, but just like the differences and how they can actually work together, to be more impactful and more powerful. Um, the second is learning how to set those impact, those powerful intentions that align with your personal values and then learning. How to let, um, your decision-making become easier because you now have these intentions to lead you, these, these values to lead you and kind of learning how to trust again in yourself, your true voice, and letting that be your guide.
[00:50:11] Lilly: [00:50:11] Yeah. Yeah, love that. So that’s going to be coming up, very soon and will be available on our on-demand classes. And then how can people work with you if they’re listening to this and they’re thinking, maybe you’ve converted one of those people. That’s like, I don’t need a health coach. I can do this on my own.
[00:50:29] What if they’re thinking maybe I should work with Andrea? How can they get connected with you?
[00:50:35] Andrea: [00:50:35] Yes. Well, I have a website, uh, where you have my contact information on there and I have Calendly. Um, so that’s where you can just schedule a discovery session. I also have the link on my Instagram as well for my cannon Calendly.
[00:50:49] It’s such a weird word. I don’t know. Yeah. It like doesn’t really flow off the time and then delete. Yeah, but it’s a scheduling thing. Um, so we could, yeah, we could have a discovery session, which is just a free 60 minute session where we’re able to just like this, have a conversation for me to get to know you better for you to get it’s for you to get to know me better and just see if we’d be a good fit and see if my programming would be a good fit for you.
[00:51:15] Lilly: [00:51:15] Love that so people can connect with you before they get really commit to anything, right? Yes. Lovely. Yes. Yes. Well, thank you so much much for being on the show. It was a pleasure to interview you and, um, thanks for sharing a little bit about your story and your practice and some advice for our list.
[00:51:35] Thank you so much for having me. This has been wonderful.